Hello's and Harley's

So... I don't think I have been on my blog site for years..... EEEEEEEKKKKK..... let me rectify that today.

*clears throat* Welcome back to Glass Houses and Stones and your hostess with the mostest, Miss Abcde Alexus Jenkins..... Miss Lexi, if you're nastee! LOL!  Seriously, it is good to be back in to the blogosphere (sp?)! I think this will give me something to do as well as keep my mind at work for good, there is a lot of evil brewing and an idle mind is the devil's play place. *plays ominous music*

Why are you back Miss Abcde? Well, I am so glad you asked. I have some major life changes under way.... let's start with the most drastic change......................I am getting a HARLEY! YAY!

  

Ha! NO! Miss Abcde does not do motorcycles. These are my version of a "Harley"  

Yes! You guessed it, I am getting braces! 

I call them Harley's because I am getting the FULL METAL JACKET! 

My friends asked me if I could get the ceramic one's or invisalign and I told them. NO! I need full metal to move these suckers around. And it's not like I have a hideous smile. See figure A.

I just need to take evasive corrective measures for other things to be aligned correctly. There IS a method to this madness! So that is the main reason why I have started to blog again. Since, I have been researching, reading blogs, and watching you tube videos on adults who have gone through and are going through this process. I figured why don't I just add my "Harley" drama to this mix. So over the next 18 months, prayerfully sooner, I will document my journey. Also, I have started reorganizing my house and finishing a couple of projects which I will also post. This will be so much FUN! 

Tomorrow is "H" DAY, so I will post before and after pics as well as what else is going on in my world. 

Till we meet again....... Toodles!

Excuse me sir...did I just take your Super powers away!?!?

Scenario: Woman is at an eatery enjoying her meal, solo. In walks handsome man. She hears door chime and automatically looks up. He walks in scanning the eatery and spots her. They lock eyes for 5 seconds, then look away. She continues to eat, he places order. She looks up he's looking at her again. Lock eyes... 5 seconds.. looks away. She's finished, but lingers just a little while longer to see if he will approach. He's looking, seems interested but doesnt approach. She almost wants to get up, put her # on her receipt and write call me on it. But she thinks its too forward and will make her look aggressive. So sadly they lock eyes one last time and she leaves the eatery.

Now....when it comes to men and women, who should approach whom? If I have been drinking and am feeling a little extra flirtatious, I will approach a guy and spark up a convo or if I sense that a guy is watching me and I find him attractive, I wont turn my head away if I catch him looking at me. I will make constant eye contact so that he knows that I am interested and if he approaches after that, it will be cool. So ladies and gents of the round table.... Should a woman approach a man? Ladies, would you, have you? Men, how do you feel about a woman approaching you? What say you?

The Road More or Less Traveled

In observing friends and family who have/are dating and lived to tell the story and from my past and current dating situations, I have realized that there are 3 roads dating can wind up on.....
Road 1: Friendville Lane... here the two have decided that they adore each others company but there's no romanticism or sexual chemistry, so they forgo the sex and remain JUST friends. Road 2: R Kelly Avenue aka Homey Lover Friends... here the two have loads of sexual chemistry and they like each others company but one or both of them, see nothing long term with the other. So they just hook up every once in a while to get one or two in.
Road 3: Relationship Road...here the two people are willing to invest time into each other to see if something long term is plausible. There is definite sexual, physical and mental attraction present.

Having been on all 3 of these roads myself, the question is who determines the road you are traveling? And can one be headed in the wrong direction and get off that path to head into another? What say you?

Here's my resume...what do you think?

So... I was talking to one of my male besties last night... and I made a statement that I always make and people find hard to believe but is very true. I have NEVER dated in my adult life. I count being an adult as 26 and up. I count dating as spending time with someone getting to know them, via phone, dates, over each others house, text, etc. aka spending time (DUH!). LOL! After hearing this he finally was like well dayum...you are new booty! No wonder you are a mental case right now.... And I am!

I decided in 2010 to get up off my bum and to put myself out there per se and start dating, get to know men and giving them a chance, stop turning down dates and not answering my phone when guys call.... well.... 3 months into 2010 and I am not doing too hot. Not to say that I havent had any dates.... Dating is like looking for a job... lets just say... in order to not get the dreaded we decided to go with another candidate letter .... I just ask for my resume back. (I know mental...I am working on this) When dating you peruse the scene and find someone you are kind of interested in. Yall exchange resumes and then you have the 1st interview (first date) and then if the first date goes well you have others. But my problem is the hiring process. Knowing if this job is full-time or part-time, temp or temp with benefits or better translated as girlfriend potentional or homey lover friend potential, just friends, or FuBu.... Most jobs post this information on the website, but its very forward to ask a guy on the first date..."Where do you see this goin?" "Are you looking for a girlfriend or just someone to hold your balls at night?" I may be a dating virgin but I do know that is not gonna work and defintely not going to get me a second date. And as in job hunting, dating, is not something just you are doing, there are a lot of people out there dating and submitting resumes to the same person that you may really like. Forget the job market...the dating market is fierce!!! I know each situation is different and I grasp alot of the concepts of dating but there are some that I really really dont.

So friends, what are some dating (or getting to know you) do's and dont's that have worked for you over the years? What are some red flags to avoid from jump.....