4.25.2008

A Road Less Traveled…..maybe not even on the map…..

So why abstinence? First let me say that I have nothing against sex. I LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE sex…….every aspect, detail, feeling, stimulate….well you get it of sex.

So its not the act itself. I chose to be abstinent because I simply was tired of ‘Random Acts of Sexaul Kindness’, this is my favorite phrase. You know how that goes, you talk to a guy, you’re feeling him, he’s feeling you but neither of you want a relationship right now but you sleep together. Or you meet some guy, he’s cool, you sleep together. It’s not necessarily the sex but rather the leisurely way in which people are having it. Nowadays having sex is like cuddling a rabid dog, you wear protective gear just in case it bites you. It doesn’t but 5 days later you’re itching. He had fleas!! DAMN DOG! You protected yourself against one thing but something else got you. You might as well just go ahead, get the gun and play Russian Roulette, you might come out better. Okay….side tracked…..people are putting rabbits to shame with the frequency and abundance of sexual partners which leads to the increase of STD and AIDS cases. I know that I can contract an STD or AIDS from within a relationship but HELL at least I would only have one phone call to make and one ass to kick. I don’t have to open Outlook and say, “hmmmmm…..who was I with from (fill in random date range)”…that’s SHULLBIT!!! So I am only abstinent to the randomness of it all. I still want to have sex but it would have to be with the guy who is ready to settle down and who can see pass the clit and his dick and see a future with me. Is that too much to ask or should I just start buying cats now because I will be an old single spinster with 40 cats???? Let me know I can handle the truth…..LOL…

Be Light, Be Real, Be Blessed ~ AA

4 comments:

GOODENess said...

I don't think that it's too much too ask...I think if you focus too much on sex (whether it's having it, or not having it) you will lose focus on what you really want from the person you are getting to know...it's a double edged sword...you can be so pre-occupied with the act of sex that you distract yourself from really connecting with someone else, therefore making yourself even more "alone" OR you can focus so much on the fact that you're NOT having sex that you create a thick walled, poriah-esque solitude for yourself...it's kind of like those health freaks that are always talking about weight loss, what they're eating (or not eating), etc...you can't even say "good morning" to them without hearing about their grapefruit, granola enema plan...after a while, it's like...ok...I get it...you're weight conscious...what else you got? I agree whole-heartedly...I feel that sex is a distraction whether you're having it or not...hence, my self inflicted dilemma...I got my own demons I'm battling over here...45 days "sober"...LOL...just not sure what I want to come from it all though...I know I don't want the weight of the "R" word...but (clearing throat, holding back tears) companionship would be nice...(oh there is a BLOG in there, check me out later today) My game plan is to play the whole subject on the low...I support your choice...so...I repeat...YOU GO GIRL!!!

GREAT rabid dog analogy BTW...

Unknown said...

I think that the sexual focus is what makes everything so random. People are walking around like PenialClit Zombies. Only listening and being guided by their sex organs. Somebody needs to slap them around a bit so that they can snap out of it.

All-Mi-T [Thought Crime] Rawdawgbuffalo said...

dont apologize for sex ever, its the spirit that is attached and some times random sex like a random snack is good for the soul

suga said...

Well, I see I've found another sista in the struggle. lol

I cut off the peen insertion at the beginning of the year, and promised myself that I would devote an entire year to just me, myself, and I.
Surprisingly, it hasnt been as hard as people claimed it would be and I'm actually contemplating going well past my year. We shall see...