Excuse me sir...did I just take your Super powers away!?!?

Scenario: Woman is at an eatery enjoying her meal, solo. In walks handsome man. She hears door chime and automatically looks up. He walks in scanning the eatery and spots her. They lock eyes for 5 seconds, then look away. She continues to eat, he places order. She looks up he's looking at her again. Lock eyes... 5 seconds.. looks away. She's finished, but lingers just a little while longer to see if he will approach. He's looking, seems interested but doesnt approach. She almost wants to get up, put her # on her receipt and write call me on it. But she thinks its too forward and will make her look aggressive. So sadly they lock eyes one last time and she leaves the eatery.

Now....when it comes to men and women, who should approach whom? If I have been drinking and am feeling a little extra flirtatious, I will approach a guy and spark up a convo or if I sense that a guy is watching me and I find him attractive, I wont turn my head away if I catch him looking at me. I will make constant eye contact so that he knows that I am interested and if he approaches after that, it will be cool. So ladies and gents of the round table.... Should a woman approach a man? Ladies, would you, have you? Men, how do you feel about a woman approaching you? What say you?

The Road More or Less Traveled

In observing friends and family who have/are dating and lived to tell the story and from my past and current dating situations, I have realized that there are 3 roads dating can wind up on.....
Road 1: Friendville Lane... here the two have decided that they adore each others company but there's no romanticism or sexual chemistry, so they forgo the sex and remain JUST friends. Road 2: R Kelly Avenue aka Homey Lover Friends... here the two have loads of sexual chemistry and they like each others company but one or both of them, see nothing long term with the other. So they just hook up every once in a while to get one or two in.
Road 3: Relationship Road...here the two people are willing to invest time into each other to see if something long term is plausible. There is definite sexual, physical and mental attraction present.

Having been on all 3 of these roads myself, the question is who determines the road you are traveling? And can one be headed in the wrong direction and get off that path to head into another? What say you?

Here's my resume...what do you think?

So... I was talking to one of my male besties last night... and I made a statement that I always make and people find hard to believe but is very true. I have NEVER dated in my adult life. I count being an adult as 26 and up. I count dating as spending time with someone getting to know them, via phone, dates, over each others house, text, etc. aka spending time (DUH!). LOL! After hearing this he finally was like well dayum...you are new booty! No wonder you are a mental case right now.... And I am!

I decided in 2010 to get up off my bum and to put myself out there per se and start dating, get to know men and giving them a chance, stop turning down dates and not answering my phone when guys call.... well.... 3 months into 2010 and I am not doing too hot. Not to say that I havent had any dates.... Dating is like looking for a job... lets just say... in order to not get the dreaded we decided to go with another candidate letter .... I just ask for my resume back. (I know mental...I am working on this) When dating you peruse the scene and find someone you are kind of interested in. Yall exchange resumes and then you have the 1st interview (first date) and then if the first date goes well you have others. But my problem is the hiring process. Knowing if this job is full-time or part-time, temp or temp with benefits or better translated as girlfriend potentional or homey lover friend potential, just friends, or FuBu.... Most jobs post this information on the website, but its very forward to ask a guy on the first date..."Where do you see this goin?" "Are you looking for a girlfriend or just someone to hold your balls at night?" I may be a dating virgin but I do know that is not gonna work and defintely not going to get me a second date. And as in job hunting, dating, is not something just you are doing, there are a lot of people out there dating and submitting resumes to the same person that you may really like. Forget the job market...the dating market is fierce!!! I know each situation is different and I grasp alot of the concepts of dating but there are some that I really really dont.

So friends, what are some dating (or getting to know you) do's and dont's that have worked for you over the years? What are some red flags to avoid from jump.....

I Bought You Into This World....

Here at Glass Houses and Stones, Friday is Family Friday, where we answer questions about family, kids, friends and life in general. So here we go…..

Question of the Day: Is there ever a legitimate time to get a ‘GET OUT OF CPS’ free pass for D.D.T.’n your child?

First let me say that I am not only a member but I am the president and CEO of the ‘Spare the Rod, Spoil the Child’ fan club.. I am not abusive and my son should honestly get more whippings than he gets. But ultimately my son knows which buttons not to push so that he won’t get a whipping so bad that he will wake up 3 days later. But kids today are just a different breed from when I was growing up and when my parents were growing up. They push buttons differently than we did. Like I would talk back to my mom at the house. They talk back boldly in public places in front of strangers. That’s like the ultimate sin. I would mumble ‘I hate you’ or ‘I wish I had a different momma’ under my breath. These kids outright say I HATE YOU in plain King’s English, and live to tell the story.

I remember back in the day the saying was, “I bought you into this world, and I will take you out!”……….the kids today make you want to clench your jaw together and with eyes of the devil, say through your teeth….”I. WILL. END. YOUR. LIFE.”

What is going on? I think if every parent didn’t fear going to jail behind going ape shit crazy on their kids a$$es then we wouldn’t have half the problems that we have today. And I am not talking about abuse, so get off your soapbox Oprah. But I am talking about a genuine old fashioned, leather belt to naked ass whipping. The reason why I had any kind of act right is because I was scared to death of getting a whipping. And my mom didn’t just use belts; she used combs, brushes, shoes, extension cords, whatever was near here and could be swung. (I WAS NOT ABUSED, SO CPS, STAY AWAY FROM MY MOMMA!!!)

Ultimately it was the whipping coupled with actual fear of death from your parents that made my generation and those before me, have a lot of act right. Is that’s what missing, do they not fear us anymore? Have our secret spidey powers been taken away? Are we no longer Spider Man, and just simple ordinary Peter Parker Parents? WOW! I guess that’s two questions for today….. What say you Blogville, USA????

Rebirth of the Blog....Question of the Day...

Hello All....whew it's been a minute since I have been on this site or even blogging... I am glad to be back!! Recently I started asking my friends, Questions of the Day. Most of the questions are random and some are actually revamps of current situations that I or the people around me or dealing with. So this morning my (m)BFF and the ex future husband love of my life type friend told me that I should start a blog with my "QOD's". I was like... you are right... I already have one... let me get to it... So here I am... Now lets get this road on the show..

Question of the Day... How soon is too soon to have sex when one is looking for a lasting relationship? Hmmm... great question Abdce, glad you asked... Sometimes sex, like shit, happens. You've said, "oh I am gonna make him wait 4 months! If he really likes me he will wait!" And then he wines and dines you. Shows you much interest and then you think he maybe just a smidge different from the rest of the riff raff out there and BAM... just like that 4 weeks and 6 outings later yall are bumping uglies... Is 4 weeks too soon, you ask? Should you have waited longer? Will he still show interest now that it only took him 4 weeks? Does this mean you are easy? Hold the phone mamacita!! There is no quadratic equation for how long you should wait! **Let's go biblical for a minute --- the correct answer to this question is wait until marriage. (end Bible message)** Each situation and circumstance is different... I dont have a correct answer for this question but would really like some insight...so Blogville, USA........ what say you???